Parents of Grand Chute victim tell Action 2 News he 'Loved his family and friends'

OUTAGAMIE COUNTY, Wis. (WBAY) -- A 20-year-old man, shot and killed last week in Grand Chute, was laid to rest Tuesday night.

Two teenagers appeared in Outagamie County court a week ago for the murder of Benjamin Graves.

Nineteen-year-old Trevor Teela is charged with 1st degree intentional homicide and is being held on a $500,000 bond.

A criminal complaint states Teela and 17-year-old Elian Coronado were part of a drug deal Sunday in the 600 block of S. Olsen Ave.

Coronado, who has been charged with gun and marijuana counts, told police the events that led up to the shooting.

A Grand Chute officer says Coronado identified the shooter as Trevor Teela.

According to the criminal complaint, Graves was shot during a drug deal involving marijuana. However, his family wants people to know he wasn’t a bad kid.

Dozens showed up to say their final goodbye to Graves Tuesday, while his parents, who now live in Utah, travel all the way back to Wisconsin to lay their youngest son to rest.

“We were packing our bags in Houston to return home from our tour down there,” said Ed Graves, Benjamin’s dad. “We got the call from the coroner who said I have been trying to reach you, we have bad news.”

From helping people impacted by Hurricane Harvey, to now dealing with their own heartache, the Graves said they weren’t surprised by the police report, but said they were sad that people may be judging Benjamin based on how he died, rather than on how he lived.

“I think people look at Ben as a doper,” said Shannon Graves, Benjamin’s mom.

Shannon said he was a wonderful musician, avid sports fan and someone who overcame a lot in his young life.

“He was autistic,” said Shannon. “He was diagnosed at the age of 15.”

“He was diagnosed incorrectly very young and treated for ADHD, and so forth, but they didn't diagnose him correctly until we were in Texas and once they got the medication right, he turned into a real person again,” said Ed.

The Graves said their son was starting to get on the right path when he was killed and they hope he is remembered for that, as well.

“He got his driver’s license, or told us he did, he got a car, or told us he did, he had a girlfriend, he had jobs,” said Ed. "We believed Ben was growing up and becoming self-sufficient in society."

“He certainly isn't one to be judged,” said Shannon. “There is enough judging going on in this world, and maybe people when they decide to judge should do it from the mirror.”